Category Archives: Big Life Questions

What makes a life worth living? What will you do with your one “wild and precious life”? How will you design the arc of your time here on the planet? Let’s ask big questions.

Screw the fairytales

In my twenties, I was on track to fulfill all the obligations of being a woman in this society: engaged to be married, great job, graduate degree education, wanted to have kids. Society was happy for me, and that ring on my finger was the icing on the cake.

The problem? I didn’t like the job, and I was wildly uncertain about the prospect of getting married, even though I’d said yes to the proposal.

Over the span of a year, I lost my rib (it was taken out of my body through emergency surgery), I lost my fiancé, and I found myself in completely new territory.

What happens after the fairy-tale ending? In most books, my engagement would have been the happily-ever-after. Here, I had a new lease on life, and finally, slowly, started listening to myself and what I wanted, instead.

Now, ten years later, I’m sharing some of these stories. It’s been a wild ride, and a slow one. One that launched my entrepreneurship ventures, moved me to New York City, took me to yoga teacher training, into startup land, and to building Startup Pregnant.

This week, I shared some of the backstory with Jeff Riddle on the Transcend Podcast. Take a listen:

When it’s too noisy to hear yourself — Episode 4 of the Transcend Podcast.

Three Things To Grow Rich In (That Aren’t Money)

Wealth can be created across more areas than just financially. Sure, monetary wealth can be a beautiful thing, and I’ve got aims to grow wealthy in money. But there’s three areas that are more important to me for wealth than just money. Read the article

How Will You Measure Your Life? The Art of Managing Yourself

This morning I was fortunate enough to wake up at 5:06am, an hour before my baby wakes up, and I had a rare hour to myself to read, write, and meditate. I picked up an HBR series called “On Managing Yourself” and meandered through Clayton Christensen’s essay, “How Will You Measure Your Life?” These are some ofRead the article

An Answer For Everything

There’s an answer for everything. Every choice, every decision, every reason for being. When you feel the impulse to dance, or wiggle, or scream, or wring your hands in frustration. When you think you don’t want to go to a meeting, when you hate getting on the subway, when you want to quit working withRead the article

Take Up Space

Take up space. Take up space with your body. With your gestures, with your height, with your size. If you’re petite, take up space. If you’re tall, take up space. Fill the room with the weight of your body, and then expand again with the weight of your soul. Take up space with your voice.Read the article

Are You Chasing Productivity At The Expense of Your Soul?

I’m struggling with two competing challenges: being present and mindful, while also chasing the ego-driven aims of “success” and “productivity.” Is there a middle ground? I reached out to my dear friend Mathias Jakobsen, author and creator of Think Clearly, to dissect this competing pull between these two desires. This is the conversation. Two CompetingRead the article

How We See Ourselves: On Identity, Labels, and Privilege

Do you know the story about when a man is asked to look in a mirror? He’s asked what he sees. He says “myself” (usually he says his name, “I see John,” etc). A woman looks in the mirror and says, “I see a woman.” A black woman says, “I see a black woman.” How weRead the article

The Profound Habit of Following Your Own Advice

Wisdom is nothing more profound than an ability to follow your own advice. — Sam Harris. I struggle with writing essays that sound too much like advice, because I know inevitably as soon as I tell you the ten tricks for getting into bed early, I’ll suffer bouts of insomnia, wake up at odd hours,Read the article

Making Space: Holding the Container Open, Empty, and Ready

Cleaning out sometimes feels a bit like a death. Whenever I pack up bags to give away, it feels as though I’m going through old remnants of my past self, closets of things that represent who I used to be, and parting ways. Lately I’ve been cleaning out everything: getting rid of extra toiletries, clothes,Read the article

What would you bring with you into the woods? Reflection questions on your own fire, the art of creation, the necessity of destruction, and your intrinsic value.

Central Park by Vivienne Gucwa on NY Through The Lens. Reflection, rejuvenation, and three questions. This weekend, I left the city to join one hundred other entrepreneurs, creatives, and innovators to shake off some digital dust and retreat in the Poconos Mountains of Eastern Pennsylvania. In addition to the typical packing instructions — sleeping bag,Read the article