Category Archives: Behavior, Habits, and How People Work:

Why do we do the things we do? This series of essays looks at human behavior, habits, psychology, and the weird ways that people act, behave, and think.

No Excuses: How to Stop Bullshitting Yourself and up your Mental Game

I broke my foot two weeks before the national meet and didn’t know whether or not I’d be able to swim. My coach taught me wisdom that killed any excuses.Keep Reading

8 Essays on Routine, Pattern, and Habit Change

October was focused on the idea of Routine: what is it, how does it show up (or not show up) in your life, and when is it useful? From re-thinking what you spend your time thinking about, to parsing out time differently, to changing up your behaviors in an experimental fashion, it was a good monthKeep Reading

Default to Finish

Pssst! Quick note: I’ll be teaching a live-stream class on November 9th all about how to plan your week and set up your schedule. Go register in advance for the seminar here. Do you finish what you start? Let’s be honest: we’re pretty terrible, as humans, at estimating time. How long something will take, how much workKeep Reading

Change It Up

If you’re not getting the results you want, try something new. If the way you’re currently working isn’t getting the results you want, you either need to stay the course a little bit longer (see: The Dip, or “Follow One Course Until Successful”), or you need to try a new way of working. If theKeep Reading

Don’t Use The Full Hour

Most of our default settings look to the top of the clock to start anything. Meetings go for an hour. We block off time for our commitments in hour-long chunks. Even exercise gets its own hour, even if we actually only do 10 minutes of it. If you think of time in hour-long chunks, youKeep Reading

The Importance of Having A Routine

Every night, after a day’s worth of pumping milk for my baby, my husband takes the pump from my hands and washes it out in the sink with the special brush. He shakes it dry, clean, ready for the next day. He says it’s one of the ways he can help with this job thatKeep Reading

“Stay Tuned”

There are lots of marketing phrases and cultural habits that we have from the 20th century that no longer make sense in the 21st century. But, because of the ever-turning force of habit, we keep them around. One of my least favorite sign-offs and marketing phrases is “Stay tuned.” “Stay tuned” used to be a wayKeep Reading

Missing A Day

I woke up with a start at 11:30pm on Saturday night. I didn’t post anything today! I had forgotten to post: so many things swept up to take hold of the day. New York got a blizzard with 22 inches of snow. Alex and I hiked through it to take a 16-hour weekend class on birthing,Keep Reading

Stop Gmail Overwhelm With These Two Scripts

How to find and send emails (without going into your email inbox): “I’m having trouble keeping up with my inbox,” a friend wrote on Facebook, asking for email tricks and tools people loved. I use a ton of email productivity measures, and I always forget that we all have vastly different habits and routines. Here are a fewKeep Reading

4 Key Phrases & Tools You Can Use To Influence Other People

Have you ever wanted to shake someone and change the way that they’re thinking, working or operating? From every day team communications, to managing your relationships in your family, to navigating the increasingly intense political landscape out there, effectively communicating who you are and what you want can seem like a pipe dream. We allKeep Reading