Today I want to share with you about a way to connect inwardly, with yourself.
But first, a quick story.
I work with coaches. A lot of coaches. I’ve worked with college coaches, swim coaches, book coaches, life coaches… you name it, I like doing it.
One of my most recent coaches has worked with me on deep, sticky, messy problems, and he consistently challenges me to level up in terms of how I grow. And how I even think about growth in the first place.
Suffice it to say, before our sessions, I start to get really anxious.
I don’t want to meet with him today.
I get a little panicky. I get frustrated. I yell (sometimes).
“Maybe I’ll just quit coaching,” I tell my husband in a panic. brings a lot of stuff up for me about how I learn, grow
He laughs at me. Kindly, though. Because I do this every single time.
Right before our sessions together, I start to get frustrated and nervous. I don’t always want to dig into the stuff that needs work.brings a lot of stuff up for me about how I learn, grow
And then we meet. And we dissect, analyze, and talk through the puzzles that are presenting themselves in my life at the moment. Sometimes I cry.brings a lot of stuff up for me about how I learn, grow
And afterwards? brings a lot of stuff up for me about how I learn, grow
Afterwards feels amazing. brings a lot of stuff up for me about how I learn, grow
Afterwards I am so grateful, and so thankful. brings a lot of stuff up for me about how I learn, grow
We unpack the stories, the narratives, the ideas, the messiness of mind, and we think about how it all layers together. And there’s relief, and freedom, and … joy. Joy in being human, in being alive, in being messy, in being like a playful little kid, experimenting, growing, and trying things out.
And my husband, he reminds me to remember that how I feel before is not the same as how I feel during, which is not the same as how I feel after.
When you’re feeling sticky or icky, or if you’re in a moment of decision-making, consider all of the layers of the feelings.
- How do you feel before?
- How do you feel during?
- How do you feel afterwards?
What you feel matters. It’s important to notice all of the feelings, not just some of them.
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