Away for a while

We’re preparing to add a second kiddo to our household. In a few weeks’ time, we’ll be bringing a new baby into this world. That means this coming Fall and Winter of 2018 will be a lot of newborn madness, alongside the extra bonus of having a very active toddler lighting up our lives. Going through this again has given me time to reflect.

Instead of taking maternity leave, I’m simply taking leave from writing on this blog, indefinitely. I’ve written on this blog for over eight years, and it’s time for me to take a break.

I’ll be on hiatus from blogging regularly here for the next six months, and I’m going to use the time to evaluate whether or not to stop blogging here entirely.

My hunch is that it’s time to edit life, as always, and harness my energy towards my next projects.

Over the last few years, I’ve added a lot to my life: in 2013, I took the leap to move to New York, go full-time with my solo-preneurship journey. In 2014, I married the love of my life. My first kid joined us in 2016, and our second kid is joining us very soon in 2018. In 2016, I started a company, and I now host a weekly podcast all about women, work, and leadership. In addition, I added columns at Forbes and Inc as part of my regular writing routine.

It’s time to cut back.

If you want to stay in touch, I’ll be publishing a new podcast each week, which I’d love to have you follow along with.

Listen to the Startup Pregnant podcast here on my website, or subscribe on Apple Podcasts.

In preparing for maternity leave as an early-days entrepreneur, I am focused on making sure my podcast—the number one driver of community and conversation for Startup Pregnant—will still be released weekly. Due to the power of batching content in advance, I have nearly six months worth of episodes ready to schedule out while I recover from the massive work that is childbirth and the bleary days that are postpartum sleep deprivation, breastfeeding, and physical recovery.

My plan is to continue to write my monthly newsletter with a round-up of my podcast and article links, so if you’re subscribed on my newsletter, you’ll still get my once-monthly round up. If you’ve been an occasional grazer and reader of my blog and want to stay in touch, sign up for my newsletter here so that I can send you an email when I publish new essays. I won’t be publishing any longer on the blog, but I will send a monthly email with a round-up. The only way to get it is to subscribe.

For now, blog, you’ve been so good to me. I’m forever grateful to you, and I’m off to pour milk into a new baby, get far too sleep deprived for my own mental sanity, recover from child birth as best I can, give my energy to a new set of writing projects, and interview for hours on my podcast. With love, always. Thanks for being with me on this journey.

And if you want to stay in touch, go get on my email list or subscribe to my podcast, because I won’t be publishing blog content here for a while now.

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Join me! Live podcast show in New York City — Thursday, August 9th

Friends! I’m joining the host, best-selling author, and founder of Unmistakeable Media for an intimate evening podcast recording of the Unmistakeable Creative Show. We’ll be taping live in New York City on Thursday, August 9th, after work. Join us. Tickets are sold in advance and are first-come, first-served, with an intimate venue and a limited audience size. Yes, I’ll be staying up late and waddling my big pregnant belly to a stage downtown to talk about startups, parenting, philosophy, and systems. Srini Rao is the bestselling author of Unmistakable: Why Only Is Better Than Best, and will be leading the discussion.Read the article

How to Do A Quarterly Review

One of my favorite practices as a business owner is to do a quarterly review and reflection. Each quarter I set OKR’s, or measurable goals, and reflect on the progress made in the last quarter. A quarter is a perfect amount of time to set a goal and make progress on it, and it’s a great interval to catch yourself if you’re not making any forward progress, either. For the last several years of my life, quarters have been the backbone of part of my planning process. Here’s what OKRs are, how they work, and my system for quarterly review.Read the article

How My Kid Teaches Me About Leadership

The learning curve of building a new human from scratch and re-wiring yourself as a parent and a functioning adult comes with plenty of challenges. Yet it also feels strangely familiar: like the long days of marathon training, or like the late nights studying to get your MBA on the side of your full-time gig. Here’s how parenting rewires us as leaders.Read the article

The Word You Keep Using

Our subconscious has a way of winding itself into our writing, if we’re paying attention. This practice always startles me, by reminding me of something that was sideways and not quite at the surface.Read the article