The learning curve of building a new human from scratch and re-wiring yourself as a parent and a functioning adult comes with plenty of challenges. Yet it also feels strangely familiar: like the long days of marathon training, or like the late nights studying to get your MBA on the side of your full-time gig. Here’s how parenting rewires us as leaders.
Our subconscious has a way of winding itself into our writing, if we’re paying attention. This practice always startles me, by reminding me of something that was sideways and not quite at the surface.
Wealth can be created across more areas than just financially. Sure, monetary wealth can be a beautiful thing, and I’ve got aims to grow wealthy in money. But there’s three areas that are more important to me for wealth than just money.
Launches aren’t easy. Sometimes when you launch, it’s the first time people are paying attention to you. They’re watching and learning and listening and waiting. Putting into the calendar for next time to join when you do it again. Listening, reading, learning. Finding out about you for the first time. Deciding and debating, hesitating. One data point—your first launch—is not enough data to make a decision. It’s only the start of an exploration. Your next steps? Here’s what I recommend.
If Facebook went away, what would change for you? How would you spend your mornings? Your workday? And what would you miss? And conversely, what would change for the better? It might be the biggest social network we’ve ever seen, but it’s also constantly changing, and it’s undergoing more investigation for its role in changing how our brains and communities work. Here’s what I’d miss, what would change, and why I still use it (for now).
“I’ll start a podcast and interview people I know,” someone says. Twenty episodes in, and they realize that they’ve accidentally interviewed people that look identical—all one gender, all one race. Did they do it on purpose? Of course not. Most people don’t mean to. We don’t set out to say “Hey look, I think I’ll create the most biased podcast out there and only interview people that look like me.” But when we don’t pay attention, this happens over and over again. Here’s why it happens, why it’s important to notice it, and when to intervene to change it.
In the process of pursuing new ways of working, it means you’re going to build new habits. Building new habits isn’t always a piece of cake: sometimes it’s rusty, weird, and feels uncomfortable. If you want things to stay the same, then keep doing exactly what you’re doing. If you want to get new results, you have to try new things. Right now, there’s one area of my life where I’m deliberately letting things break, and it’s not pretty. It’s uncomfortable. And I’m probably going to disappoint people. Read what it is and why I’m okay experimenting with it.
Around December last year, I realized that I wanted to plan ahead for the year differently. I was tired of pushing for “more,” and feeling like I was spinning my wheels trying to do a hundred things at once. Instead, over a series of notebook pages, I started to sketch out where my time was going, and what I was truly working on. The results shocked me — and they made me rethink how I set up my business in 2018. Listen as I break down the process I used while live on The Kate & Mike Show!
One of my favorite things to study and observe is how work is changing. Two decades ago, we didn’t have any of the social networks we have today. Three decades ago, email and the internet weren’t regular tools. So much about work is changing: what it looks like, what our expectations of it are, what our requirements are, how we engage with each other, where we work from. Some of the progress is great, while other areas still leave a lot left to be improved.
For Forbes’ last week, I got to write about eight entrepreneurial parents that are changing the way work looks, whether it’s through their company, or by how they’re showing up in the work world. I’m consistently inspired by entrepreneurs, and by parents. Here’s the article if you’d like to read about these outstanding entrepreneurs, and if you’re interested in parenting and leadership, you can also follow my column.
A simple trick that helped me make better decisions. Truly—this mindset shift has stuck with me every since I learned about it many weeks ago.